How To Create the Life You Want

Do you ever wish you had a magic wand and could create the life you want? But instead, you feel like you’re repeating the same loop, over and over again, like the movie Groundhog Day?

You feel like you’re stuck and not getting any traction in your life or business. You’ve tried doing so many things, but nothing seems to work.

You aren’t alone. Many people feel frustrated because they’re working really hard but they’re still not getting the success they want.

In The Success Principles by Jack Canfield, he talks about how people aren’t more successful because they have more willpower, it’s because they’ve learned how to let go of limiting beliefs and change their self-image. The way to do this is to change your mindset.

The only thing getting in the way of you getting everything you want in your life is your MINDSET.

One of the keys to changing your mindset is getting out of your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is there to keep you safe, but it also keeps you small and prevents you from achieving real success.

Your thoughts, cause your emotions, which lead to your behaviors, which end up as the results you see in your life.

When you feel stuck, it’s because you’re thinking the same thoughts, leading to the same emotions, causing the same behaviors and the same results. And it becomes an endless loop that never changes.

If you don’t change your thoughts, you’ll never change your results.

The first step to changing this loop is to focus on the reality you want to create.

You do this by visualizing what you want, writing it down, then reading it daily.

You have to bombard your subconscious with the new reality and it will start to work nonstop to make it happen.

Making this a daily practice is incredibly powerful and will cause profound changes in your personal life and business.

I’ve learned from my own personal experience the power of writing a new reality. I started with writing my goals on index cards and reading them daily. I started adding other elements that inspired me and began seeing significant changes in my life. So I created a card with all the tools I like to use to called the Compass Card. I’m going to take you through each part so you know how to use it.

You can download the Compass Card here: https://balancedpathcoaching.com/free-resources/

How to Use the Compass Card

On the top, put the date and your yearly financial goal. Put a specific number that’s at least 20% higher than last year. If you’re not sure how to come up with a financial goal, watch my Facebook live here where I talk about creating SMART goals.

Next, choose your theme words. Theme words are meant to inspire or motivate you. When I first heard about theme words, I didn’t really understand how they worked until a friend of mine told me about her experience with them. She was in a little slump of getting new clients so she started using her theme words every day. Her words were confidence, clients and cash. She would say the words every morning and anytime during the day when she needed a little boost.

After a few months, she started getting new clients. Then one of her clients paid her $2000 in cash! Which has never happened to her before!

After hearing that, I started using theme words, and they really work.

Next, write in your top five core values. Your core values are the most important principles that guide your life. If you haven’t identified yours yet, watch my Facebook live to learn how and click here to download a free exercise.

The last part is for affirmations to create the life you want.

The Power of Affirmations

If you watched my FB live where I talked about SMART goals, I told a story about Jim Carrey writing himself a postdated check for $10 million dollars for acting when he was trying to break into Hollywood and keeping that check in his wallet where he could see it every day.

He talks about how when he wasn’t getting any work, he’d drive up to Mulholland Drive and just sit there. He would stretch out his arms and say “Everyone wants to work with me. I’m a really good actor. I have all kinds of great movie offers.” And he would just repeat this over and over again, convincing himself that he had a couple of movies lined up. Then he would drive down, feeling really motivated and thinking, “Movie offers are out there for me, I just don’t hear them yet.”

He said that doing this helped offset the other thoughts from his family’s background. These affirmations helped him to realize his dream and double his initial goal by making $20 million dollars per movie in just five years.

One of the best ways to get more success is to do what Jim Carrey did, which is to use affirmations. They have the power to convince your subconscious to filter the information needed to make the new reality happen.

How to Write an Affirmation

Write down a statement of what you want as if you’ve already achieved it. Imagine that you are going to create the life you want. Here’s how to write yours:

• Start with “I am” and write in the present tense.
• State what you want, not what you don’t want.
• Keep it short and specific, and include an action word ending with “ing”.
• Include an emotion or feeling word that you would be feeling if you had already achieved the goal.
• Make the affirmation for yourself, not others.

A way to come up with your affirmation is to visualize something you want to create or have. Imagine yourself having what you want, then describe it and how you feel.

You’ll see on the bottom of the card, there are five sentences where it says, “When my life is ideal, I am…”  Then fill in the blank with whatever your biggest dreams are for your life. Create the life you want and read it twice a day.

For example, if you want a vacation home, describe it and how you’ll feel when you’re in it. “When my life is ideal, I’m enjoying my four-bedroom vacation house in Hawaii.”

I started doing this a few years ago and it’s like magic. After a year, three of my goals came true!

Conclusion

When you’re not seeing results in your life or your business, it’s because of your mindset and thoughts.

When you change your thoughts, you change your emotions, then your behaviors which leads to different results in your life.

You do this by filling your subconscious with thoughts of the reality you want to create, writing them down and reading them daily. Use the Compass Card and write in your goals, theme words, core values and affirmations. Visualize yourself as if you’ve already achieved the goals. You’ll start to see opportunities coming your way and you’ll feel motivated to reach your goals. Then watch as you create the life you want.